Most bondage enthusiasts are rather secretive about their interests, and this is a good thing. A person’s sexual interests should only be important to those with whom you are intimate, and is simply not the business of your friends, family, co-workers or anyone else, really. Furthermore, these people outside your bedroom don’t care and most likely don’t want to know what you’re into – just as you wouldn’t want to know what bizarre, twisted (or if it’s not your fetish, boring) stuff they’re doing behind closed doors.
In any case, the most-asked question by guys interested in bondage is this: How do I tell my girlfriend?
Because of all the years of pent-up secret history that goes along with this question, this issue has a lot more gravity for bondage-loving guys than it really should. This is the 21st Century, for cryin’ out loud, and there’s a pretty good chance that your girlfriend will not be shocked, has already participated in much stranger activities, had boyfriends with more bizarre peccadilloes, and has fantasies of her own that make yours seem downright vanilla by comparison.
Nonetheless, as a public service, we’re going to present easy step-by-step instructions on how to reveal your big secret to your significant other. Just follow these directions for assured success:
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Pick the right time to tell her. If you have a typical relationship,
there are invariably some conflicts, and these are always charged with
sexual energy. Let’s face it, there is nothing better than sex after a
fight. So, begin by confronting your lady about something, even if you
have to fabricate a conflict. Challenge her about her spending habits,
criticize her housekeeping, or accuse her of flirting with or even having
sex with your friends. (As an aside, unless you have full medical
insurance coverage, DO NOT mention her weight.) |
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Tie your partner well. If you really want to impress her with your
fetish, you can’t do a half-hearted job. You want her to be completely
helpless, and she will invariably be disappointed in she could escape. So
be sure to use a lot of rope, and make certain everything is snug. |
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She may resist. This is a good sign. Obviously your lady is making a
conscious effort to get her adrenalin going, and revving up for a red-hot
sexual encounter. It’s a sure sign she’s getting into the moment and
trying to encourage your impromptu role-playing fantasy. Meet her
resistance with additional force so she’ll know you want her to have a
truly enjoyable, intense experience. |
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Once your lady is subdued, take a moment to enjoy your work. She’ll
undoubtedly be swept off her feet, and may need a moment to catch her
breath. Take this opportunity to indulge her fantasies with a few choice
words, which may outwardly seem like threats or sexist taunting – but
will prove very effective in the context of this unexpected role-play. |
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Leave your lady completely alone to enjoy your work. There is no doubt
that every novice will enjoy struggling in bondage, and it will allow her
to create her own fantasies of what will happen next. |
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Impress her with your collection of "toys." All women love
surprises, and enjoy sexual experimentation. This is your opportunity to
give your love the joy of discovery, and if she’s in your control, you
can use your favorite devices without that embarrassment of talking about
it first or negotiating.
8. Make sure you take care of her needs too. It’s a well-known fact that all women are multi-orgasmic, and once you have fully satisfied her, she will be truly grateful you finally shared your big secret with her. 9. Afterward, force your girlfriend to read this. |
Special thanks to Abby Cameron and Ikaras
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Don’t let her interrupt you. This is your moment, and you had to
summon a lot of courage to make your confession to her. This is not a time
for discussion. If you start a verbal exchange, you may become distracted
and forget some of the finer points you wanted to tell her.